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Punters – Part 3

Posted: April 10, 2014 in Punters
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I am getting such a good response to my Punters series of blog posts! Better keep the crowds happy, then – here is number three!
I am going to call this guy MJ as he has asked to be anonymous. (NB: not his actual initials)
The very first question I asked was about MJ’s adult service habits – which ones does he use, how long for, and why! This is what he said…

I use webcams a lot – at least once a day if only to pop in and say Hi to the girls I am in regular cam contact with. I use phone chats fairly regularly but due to making huge £1000 plus phone bills a few months running this has been cut down dramatically . I do go to a lapdance club but this is mainly because the girl I am currently involved with works there.
Ok why do I use them? It’s fairly simple – in real life face to face meets with women I am crap , I can’t tell if a lady likes me or not so to be able to see a beautiful girl on the telly and know it’s her I am chatting to makes me comfortable. Plus the girls on screen are unobtainable, they are never going to be sat in a bar face to face with me so I feel I can be open and honest. I have in more recent years found the web-camming a great source of finding ladies who like my kinks to talk to.

Interesting answer! MJ has been using these phone chat channels and sites since his early twenties – although he did not say how old he is now, so I am going out on a limb and assuming that this constitutes quite a long time!
So MJ, how do you view the ladies you like to interact with?

In my opinion, I see the women in porn as people – one of my bestest buddies does webcam, phonechat and dominatrix stuff. I first met her on webcam years ago and she was real, she was human I could have a chat with her and shes a lovely lady. I have always had a respect for the ladies who do this work. I may be cheeky I may get a little horny but I never degrade or be openly nasty to any of them, most of the girls I have spoken to all seem to think I am lovely so I must be at least doing something right.

So it would appear from MJ’s answer, and indeed those of the other fellas I have spoken to, that they can actually distinguish between a fantasy figure and a real person – something that the antis like to refute with great gusto. This ties in nicely to my next question, which was about whether these “virtual” relationships interfere with his “real” relationships –

I have no real personal relationships due to my lack of confidence. I am pretty much single so to be fair my relationships with the ladies I phone or webcam with are my most real ones.

I don’t think you can call a relationship with a camgirl or phone chat host not real – if you’re interacting regularly with someone, of course you get to know them! Lots of my regular callers and cammers do genuinely care and I care about them too – it’s not like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but it is definitely a friendship!
I then asked MJ who some of his favourites were – I appreciate this is a hard question, especially when you speak to a lot of girls a lot of the time! But MJ managed to narrow it down to five…

Miss AmberLeigh .
Beth from Babestation adorable little Kiwi .
Brookelynne Briar beautiful Canadian lady who is so sweet .
Alex Adams now retired from the shows but lovely little blonde nutcase .
October Summers and MFC cam girl who is so adorable .
For any ladies who cam this isn’t an exhaustive list and depending on what your into you may get added !!

Hear that ladies?! MJ’s top five could be expanded if you hit the right buttons for this lovely chap!
I then went on to discuss whether, for MJ, a real time meet is preferable to one over the phone or webcam…

I have only had one proper real time meeting with a very lovely lady who fulfilled a long lived fantasy of mine (and hers) and it was amazing! I was nervous as hell but she made me feel at ease and I loved every minute, the practicality of it is the webcams allow me easier and cheaper access to the things I like. My kink isn’t appreciated by all so finding ladies willing to play face to face can be difficult.

Oooh, I am interested to hear what this “kink” is – but MJ did not elaborate so I shall only guess for now! 😉
A final message from MJ – and although he has claimed anonymity, I’m sure that the girls who know him will be able to tell who it is!

I would like to say in the many years I have used the phonechats and Cams it has been rare to find any lady to be anything but professional you ladies that do talk to me regularly know who you are and I love you all to bits . I have along the way made a really good friend who I adore and care about heaps and as long as I can afford to keep talking camming and finding ladies willing I shall help to keep the industry afloat.

What a lovely chap! I do hope that you find your way into my chatroom soon, MJ, you all know I love an interesting fetish!!! Thank you for contributing to the blog, I hope that people take note of your words and realise that not all men who use adult oriented services are horrible old pervs – I can assure you, they are not!

Punters – Part 2

Posted: April 9, 2014 in Punters
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Well I do hope you enjoyed the last post – I must say, I do feel very touched when people agree to help me out with my little blog, especially those who wish to remain anonymous – they are trusting me with some very personal and private things, and I feel very humble to think that these people – some of whom are complete strangers – trust me enough to share this!
Anywho, before I get too sentimental, I thought I would continue. This next post is brought to you courtesy of a chap called Wayne. Wayne has been using escorts for many years now, and has also dabbled in webcam activities and the odd visit to a strip club or two. An enthusiastic punter, Wayne started availing himself of the many wonderful pleasures of the flesh as soon as he turned 18! No hanging about for this chap! His very first punt was in a London walk up (for those of you unfamiliar with the term – literally, an open door down a backstreet, typically somewhere like Soho, leading to stairs, which would prompt you to “walk up” them!) and that, as they say, is history!
Again, having been a regular gentleman caller for a long time, Wayne has come to realise that working girls are real people too!

I see ladies working in the industry as women making a living, they provide a service that i enjoy and don’t mind paying to use. I have seen a few ladies on more than one occasion, one becoming very close to them. Have even been out on a dog walk with one before sexual services.

Ah, nothing like a brisk walk of the hound to whet one’s sexual appetite huh?! I can understand how it’s very easy to view people in the context of their job – and sex work is not exempt from that. However it’s also just as easy to remember that we are all human, we all have feelings, and, yes, sometimes, we have to walk the dog before we get on with work!
I asked Wayne if he thought his use of adult services affected his personal relationships at all. He answered me with this:

I was single for a long time, I worked nights so having a relationship was very hard. Once I was in one, I stopped seeing ladies but still watched the odd webcam show. In between relationships, I saw escorts as saw it as an easy way to get sex! I could pick a lady and give them a call.

Well that is true, the beauty of sex work has to be the convenience, surely?! A simple and easy transaction whereby everyone is satisfied. I asked Wayne if he had any favourites, initially meaning babeshow hosts or cam girls. Due to my not having made this clear, Wayne answered that although he had A LOT of favourites, his real preference was for porn star escorts. I have heard from lots of people, on both sides of the transaction, that some people like to meet escorts who have been pornstars, or still are. I suppose it’s the porn equivalent to meeting Johnny Depp or Scarlett Johanssen or someone that you’ve lusted after in a movie for years, and then you get to bone them! Winner! Now if only Captain America was offering his services for a fee…!!! Wayne then went on to say that he had actually met two of his favourite pornstars for escort meets several times. Lucky Wayne!
Despite not being able to beat the real thing, Wayne says that he probably now uses webcam more often, as he finds this most convenient. When asked if there was anything else he would like to add to this blog post, all he said was, “please don’t think I’m a pervert!”
I don’t think you’re a pervert at all dear; there is nothing wrong with a healthy interest in sex and sexual outlets!

You know what really grinds my gears?!

Well, it’s not the biggest source of annoyance in my life, but it is one of them. People seems to forget that, as a porn performer, cam girl, babeshow host, whatever – that you are a real person. They don’t seem to stop and think that the character you are portraying on screen or cam or phone is not actually you. They think that the perpetually horny, potty mouthed filth-monger is actually the real you – and they could not be more wrong!

It annoys me that people think they can tweet you pictures of their dick, or lewd comments about how to cure your sore throat, and you won’t get peeved about it! I know that of course, this is to be expected – after all, we are working in the sex industry and playing a part, so naturally people think this way. Without these people, we wouldn’t have jobs – but it irks me that some don’t seem to grasp that it is just a role to be played and I would appreciate it far more if they would consider the reality of it all sometimes!

It also pisses me right off that punters/viewers/whatever think they know you. They think they know every last intricate detail of your personality and character. I see people constantly banging on about what a lovely girl so-and-so is, how nice whats-her-face is, what a true gem thingybob is. You’ve never met these people – I have, and she’s a dickhead! She’s got a bad attitude! She’s painfully stupid! The bottom line is, you only see what you want to see in adult workers, or what they allow you or choose for you to see. And that’s fine, as I said already, we are all just doing our jobs, playing a part. But don’t get it twisted – you never truly know someone until you have met them and spent a considerable amount of time with them. You can’t sit there and say that some girl is the nicest person in the world when you’ve been jerking off down the phone to her – that’s what she wants you to think! You can say that she’s good at her, job, and you enjoy talking/camming/watching with her, but how can you possibly say that you know them?! And know them so well as to make grand statements about the inner workings of her true personality?!

I know I sound like I’m being ungrateful, having been one of these girls myself (and still am a cam/phone worker) and trying to shatter the illusion many spend lots of their money on. I’m not. There is nothing wrong with a little fantasy, escaping reality from time to time and indulging yourself in a sexual daydream. I just wish that people would sometimes consider that we are real people with real failings, flaws and personality defects just as much a good natures, great senses of humour and a friendly bit of verbal intercourse!

The constant praise and compliments of people over-inflates their egos – especially the ones who are total knobends, as they know they are knobends, but think that these fans believe the illusion and the glamour and they’ve got away with not being found out to be a knobend. Which os course just fuels the cycle of being a knobend, so much that they forget who they really are, and when it’s all over for them and they have no other way to make a living they stop and think – “fuck, I am actually a knobend”.

Of course play the part, be the fantasy whilst working, do your job well, keep the guys happy. But remember, when it’s 3am and something terrible happens, you’re going to need real friends and real support, not just the misplaced and misinformed adoration of strangers.

Keep it real, people!

 

…no, not what you’re thinking you dirty buggers!

It’s 04:43 in the morning and I am producing on ChatGirl. Kimmy Haze is in on the overnight shift with me and I thought I would take this moment to write a little about “babe show” work.

It is not easy! Behind or in front of the camera. In front, you have to make sure you look appealing and fun and alluring for the duration of your entire shift. This is, of course particularly hard when it’s late night or early morning – any kind of shift work messes with your system regardless of what you are doing on said shift. You also have to entertain all manner of callers, act like you haven’t had 28 identical phone calls already or just been asked the most strange and unusual thing you’ve ever heard of (how on earth can you get off to THAT?!), and on top of all that you’re feeling under pressure to rack up a decent amount of minutes to make it worth the companies’ while to continue giving you shifts. You end up twisting yourself into all sorts of odd positions in order to display the parts the caller wants to see, hold a phone, and stop yourself from falling over. If you’re on a television show, rather than a web based show, you have to be aware of, and ensure you are adhering to, Ofcom rules and regulations – not doing or saying anything too rude and depraved, not showing anything too explicit, and so on…big fines are in place for breaches of this nature and your producer won’t be happy if you foul up!

As Kimmy has just said to me, it would seem you have to have multiple personalities in order to be a successful babe show “babe”. You have to be all things to all people. Whoever is on the end of your phone has a perception of you in his head; you’re his fantasy woman for the next five minutes and in order to keep that caller happy you have to pretend that yes, you’d really love him to shove his (clearly exaggerated) 15 inch penis right up your backside while he’s wearing his wife’s knickers and bellowing like an injured wildebeest.

They don’t care that you’re tired, or fed up, or bored, starving, dying for a wee or aching like buggery downstairs. To them, you’re not a real person with thoughts and feelings – much like those poor buggers in your car insurance or mobile phone customer service department that you scream at when they’ve fucked up somewhere – you’re an outlet for their deviant desires and wanking whims.

Of course that’s a generalisation; you do get lovely callers who know you and follow you and do just call up to see how you are. That is however the minority.

On the other side of the camera, it’s also not an easy job. You are required to make sure girls are on screen, on time, with a phone logged in and ready to go. Keep the camera on the right spots, zoom in when necessary, move every time the girl moves, make sure they’re not sitting there looking and feeling bored. Keep an eye on minutes and callers coming through. Promoting the show on various social networking and industry websites. Taking lots of pictures to accompany said promotions. Hurrying them back off their breaks or toilet visits. And so on. When it’s quiet or the girl is on the phone, you’re pretty much left to your own devices, which is hard when it’s late and you’re sleepy.

There really is a lot more to it than just sitting there shaking a phone.

Now tell me it’s not a real job!

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