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This week has seen a great response to my #NotJustAPrettyFace feature so I thought I’d finish it off with my own experiences before starting a new theme next week!

Where to start… I left sixth form after my A Levels and started a university course in BEd Primary Education – originally I wanted to be a teacher. However I soon decided that I did not like the way the education system worked and nor was I actually a fan of small kids so I left after one year – which I passed, by the by. I worked in a shop for six months or so before landing a job at the local county court, where I stayed for two years.
I was 20 when I started working there, and although I liked earning I felt that I hadn’t finished my further education journey and decided to go back. This time I enrolled at a different university on a BSc Psychology and Criminology undergraduate degree.

My time in county court meant that I’d developed an interest in the legal system and I wanted to go back into it with a little more training behind me – my plan was to work in either the prison, police or probation services in some psychological capacity. However, life didn’t work out that way! The recession hit in my second year and by the time I’d graduated the public sector had absolutely no job opportunities whatsoever. I left uni with a 2:1 that I worked my little ass off for, and nowhere to go. None of the jobs I wanted thought I had the relevant experience, whilst all the retail/office/pub/cleaning jobs wouldn’t hire me as I was overqualified and they didn’t trust that I wouldn’t leave as soon as something better came along.

To say this pissed me off was an understatement! I’m a clever girl and can do most things asked of me, I just wanted to work, man, and no one seemed to give me a break. So after six months on the bastard dole I signed up with a temping agency and started doing random office jobs before finally landing a permanent job for a travel company.

I absolutely, categorically, HATED this fucking job. I mean I was grateful to be in employment and earning a reasonable salary, but where was the amazing career promised me for being a university graduate?! Schools and colleges tell you that if you have a degree, the world is your oyster – it’s bullshit. It’s a distinct advantage, yes, and maybe one day when the economy recovers, this will be the case again – but I shan’t hold my breath.

Anyway – I digress. So after a year at this company being miserable, they buggers tried to sack me for gross misconduct – I shan’t go into details but basically I took them to court and they paid me off – I wasn’t in the wrong! But immediately following my dismissal, I panicked. What the hell was I going to do?! Frantically I called my old temping agency and they miraculously got me in at the magistrates court, but as I was also at college one day a week doing my nail technician course I only worked three days a week to begin with. This obviously was not enough to keep me going.
This, dear readers, is the point at which I ventured onto Adultwork! I’d heard about this site from a friend years back, but had been too scared to try it. This time, however, I thought – what have I got to lose?!

The first time I went on webcam I was petrified. For weeks I wouldn’t even show my face on there, just incase someone in court recognised me! But my first night on there I made about what I used to make in a week in court, on my crappy laptop with built in webcam and shockingly show internet connection.

And the rest, as they say, is history! I have never looked back since that very fist night on cam, drunk, nervous and terrified I’d be spotted by someone I knew. I kept it secret for ages but then started telling my friends and eventually my family. Thankfully everyone was supportive and actually thought it quite funny! Webcam opened up an awful lot of opportunities for me and I absolutely love life. I only wish I had started sooner – during my three years at university I had five different jobs (gym bar staff, local pub, office, HMV and gym receptionist) and even though these were flexible and allowed me to work around my studies, I know now that webcam would have been a far more lucrative endeavour for me – I wouldn’t now have the debt that I do. I’ve not had any negative responses to what I do, and I realise that I am very lucky in this respect. My family have always supported me 100% and even though this isn’t what they may have chosen for me, they understand why I chose this path and are proud of me for making a career in an industry that I love – despite its flaws, it allowed me to do things I never could have done staying what I was doing before. I’ve met fabulous people, travelled for work, won an award, I work from home as and when I choose, moved to a lovely flat I could never otherwise have afforded and have an enviable shoe collection! What more could a girl want?!

I do think that my degree helps me understand people better, which is vital when dealing with people in the manner that I do. Finding out what makes them tick and how to adapt what I do to suit their needs is really important, as it ensures they get the best service and will keep coming back. My regulars are brilliant and I genuinely love talking to them. My eyes are well and truly opened to all the weird and wonderful fetishes out there and nothing surprises me anymore – a topic for another blog perhaps?!

But anyway, that is how I ended up where I am now – there were many adventures along the way, which I shall regale you with some other time! I’m currently at ChatGirl right now, producing through the night, so make sure you’re watching and make sure you keep up to date with this blog – there’s way more to come…xxx

How we all doing today gang?!
So yesterday I had the most hits on my blog EVER! I am so pleased by the ositive comments and feedback that it’s receiving. Today I bring you the marvellous Kimberley Scott! (@sexyplaymatexxx)
Kimberley hails from Eastern Europe, now living in the UK, and describes herself as a “indi companion, party organizer and party girl, XXX/Glam/Adult model and performer, cam girl” – so she is a lady of many talents. She has been working in the adult industry since she was 18 years old so has seen it all! She is also a clever sort, and actually has a degree in Psychology – just like yours truly.

Initially I wanted to continue with MIT and System Administration (high school diploma is A of Graphic Design and Video Editing) but unfortunately there was no satisfying subject in the Uni of my lil town so I went to the capital, started my sex work (more free time for studies and of course a lot better pay). Dealing with different people every day made me re-think my study ambitions and I went for Psychology. At the end of the day I was and still am practicing it in my work so I just wanted to know what makes people tick. I just wanted to know what drives people to do the things they do.

Psychology is definitely very useful in this line of work, in my opinion, as it allows you understand how and why people may think the way that they do, and really get under their skin and provide the best service that you can!
Kimberley was already working in the adult industry when she began her studies – the money was good enough to allow her to fund herself through university, and she felt that she didn’t have that many options so adult work seemed like a good choice! As she said herself, the country she hails from isn’t know for looking after it’s people terribly well.
After university, Kimberley wanted to work in the police force, or as a forensic psychologist. However, this didn’t go to plan…

I’ve always wanted to be a police officer or at least in the forces. After 5 years in uni doing psychology I knew what I wanted to do – I wanted to be a forensic psychologist. Unfortunately there were way too many obstacles like corruption and sleaziness so I went on different path.

During her time at university, not many people we aware of Kimberley’s job, and she says that those that were, either weren’t that bothered or were doing the same thing themselves! She even hints that certain skillsets from the job may have helped certain people in their academic pursuits…

There weren’t that many people knew what I was doing but those that knew didn’t really care. It was more interesting to them how my world works than actually being prejudice. When I finished uni 40% of girls were doing my job to fund studies or just for better, glamorous life (In some case the marks were depending on certain skills too, hush hush of course)

Many times I have counted my blessings and been thankful that I live in a society where my choices are my own and that I have the support of my friends and family. Kimberley also says that she is lucky in this respect.

Thankfully western world is a lot more tolerant with sex work and women choosing to do that job so there is not that much surprise, unfortunately there are still some people thinking that we’re forced to do it and we’re wasting our potential. I’m blessed that my family and closest friends are ok with my job and I can share my thoughts and feelings free.

Some people, of course, do not have this attitude to sex workers, and Kimberley sums this up quite nicely in her final thoughts – citing religion and society as the biggest opposition in the fight for sexual freedom!

Sex work in general can be very rewarding in many ways – Financial independence, sexual freedom, knowing yourself better and overall well being. The society although makes it sound like biggest disgrace hiding behind Bible, old fashioned customs and some powerful people’s misunderstandings. In this day and age women can CHOOSE on their own to be sex workers or not. Yes, there is a dark side to it but isn’t there for everything? Yes, it is dangerous but tell me what job is not dangerous? At the end of the day that’s our lives and we going to live it the way we want to.

Wise words from a smart lady. I think that forcing small businesses into bankruptcy for profit is immoral, but you don’t see people protesting against banks as a whole. I also think that sitting around on your ass all day expecting the state to foot the bill for your lazy lifestyle is pretty wrong, but you don’t get people holding conferences discussing how this type of immorality eats away at our society and creates a horde of useless drones. Thank you, Kimberley, for your contribution to today’s blog – and keep up the good work girl!

Morning all!
I am so pleased with the feedback my last few posts have got. Such is the level of response, I am carrying on this theme for the next day or so! It just goes to show, that you really cannot judge a book by it’s cover, nor a person by their job!
Today’s first #NotJustAPrettyFace comes from an anonymous contributor. I do not know anything about this person other than what is written in their answers, but I can tell you, that she’s a lady! Mystery Contributor Z is a part time escort, working through an agency. The reason for only being part time is that she actually works full time as a Communications Manager, which she studied for via Distance Learning whilst raising her children. Her degree is in Leadership & Management, so she is not a shrinking violet, oh no! Studying for a degree is hard enough at the best f times, let alone whilst raising a family, so this is a very clever and determined lady indeed!
When I asked her how she get into the escorting, this was her reply:

My hubby and I have always had an open minded relationship and we started introducing others into our relationship as part of our social activities. After a while we thought “hey, we could make some cash out of this and have fun too” so I started ‘working’ a few evenings a week when the kids were away for the night. But, I never wanted this work to be my main source of income, that would take the fun out of it for me.

Again, like my last post, Mystery Lady Z keeps her “adult” and “vanilla” lives very separate, for several reasons, not least on account of having a family but also because she is all too aware of how such things are perceived by others:

People at my ‘normal’ job have no idea that I do what I do in my spare time and I prefer it that way. I have a professional image which would be ruined by prejudice in the workplace if they knew. So sad really.
Clients are often surprised to hear I have a normal job and a degree, I’m honest with them and I tell them that I do this work for fun and to top up my handbag/shoe fund which is what I blow the money on most weeks :-).
I love what I do, my hubby loves what I do, I like to think my clients love what I do and that’s what makes me happy in life – along with my kids of course (who are completely and blissfully unaware of my work when they are at grannies house)

I know a lot of escorts and porn performers that have husbands and families. I think people’s initial reactions to this are – “oh my God, thats terrible” – but why? As Mystery Lady Z has just said, she’s happy, hubby is happy, and her children are looked after and well cared for – and enjoying happy parents, which is seriously underrated in my opinion! But because of people’s prejudices and ignorance, she feels that she has to keep this part of her life shrouded in secrecy, so much so that she didn’t want to lend her name to this piece. It’s very sad that people can make such snap judgements based on, what I think, absolutely bloody nothing other than societal and media propaganda. So I want to say an extra especial thanks to Mystery Lady Z, for letting us have a sneak peek into her otherwise very secret world!
Gone off topic with the degree thing there, but my mind likes to wander! Part 5 will be coming up shortly from a photographer/producer, and Part 6 is another Mystery Lady! Don’t miss it!

Part 3 of my little mini-series on adult workers with university qualifications (I might make this a week long feature, such is the level of response I’ve had!) brings you one Mr Sam Clarkson! (@MrSamClarkson)

Sam is a very rare breed of gentleman, in that he is a male webcammer. These creatures are few and far between, (an idea for a later blog feature, perhaps?!) so it was great when he offered to contribute to what I was banging on about today.

Mr Clarkson is also a university graduate, having studied architecture. He began webcamming whilst at university, as this kind of work is so flexible! You can webcam whenever you like and the only one moaning t you about work is you! No horrible boss trying to make you come in when you have an important lecture or seminar to attend. (I wish I had discovered webcam work when I was at uni!)

Although Sam originally expected he would leave the webcam work behind upon completion of his studies, he actually still keeps it up regularly alongside his day job. A real life Peter Parker, of sorts…kinda…a dual life anyway! I like hearing about people who have a “vanilla” job but then also a totally different alter ego in the adult world, it fascinates me!

Sam really does keep the two sides very separate – for good reason!

I don’t encounter prejudice – My camming job and my day job are very separate. In fact both sides are pretty much a secret from each other. No day job folks know I cam. And very few camming folks know I have a day job.
However, I do things this way to avoid expected prejudice!

He also commented that although people on webcam are often surprised to learn he is university educated, students are often not surprised at his line of work – and it’s apparently more common than I thought!

People are always surprised when they learn I’m educated AND work on cam. Especially if they’ve seen my Adultwork profile. They get a very different sense of the person I might be from only reading that page. However the other way around… Students are not so surprised about the camming line of work. I know quite a number that have done it or tried it whilst at uni.

So there you go, dear readers, another very different perspective on working in the adult industry from another degree level educated individual! Part 4 will be on it’s way, from an anonymous contributor…oooh, I love a bit of mystery, me!

Here’s part 2 of my exploration of adult workers with degrees and an education! Yes, the two can co-exist hand in hand, you don’t need to be a dumbass to get naked for a living, contrary to popular belief!

“Adult worker” can cover many different occupations, although the dictionary defines this term as a polite term for prostitution. Webcam model, phone sex operator, dancer, porn star, escort…or, a naked handyman!

@mynakedhandyman very kindly agreed to answer some questions for me in my quest to show the nay-sayers that not everyone who is nude at work is an illiterate, uneducated fool, as society at large would have us believe. As his Twitter handle may suggest, Andy is a naked handyman! He gets paid to do work for both couples and singles, whilst totally in the buff. He will also include some little added extras, if they so desire!

Andy is super clever – he already has a degree in English, and is now currently studying again for his Masters in Marketing and PR, with a view to starting his own PR agency some day. He began his foray into all things naked during his first spell at university, working as a stripper and a life model. As with so many graduates – myself included – after university he was struggling with debts and did various jobs to get by, but found out that he could get paid handsomely for doing people’s odd jobs and cleaning whilst starkers! In fact, he liked it so much, that he still does it to this day!

When I asked Andy if he has ever encountered any prejudice or negative responses to what he does, he said:

Not that many people know I do what I do but anyone who has found out has generally been supportive. The males think it’s a great idea and the women are quite often very curious!

Andy made a very good point about perception when I went to ask if people are surprised or shocked when they find out he is studying at university:

I’ve not had that many people be surprised when I tell them I’m back studying. I’ve always been relatively keen on education and I’m well spoken so people often think I’m more intelligent that I am! Sadly, the power of an accent nowadays can mask anything – it’s all about image. This is why I’m very keen on getting into PR – it’s all about people’s perception.

Andy’s final words on the subect remind me of careers day at school – and I wish I had paid more attention back then!

If anyone out there wants to study – go for it. It’s never too late and there’s never anything that’s not worthwhile studying – if it interests you, then you’ll find it both challenging and rewarding.

So there you go, guys – you CAN study at Masters level AND get yer kit off for a living! Stigmas are attached by people – and can be removed by them, too. Open up your mind – your brains won’t fall out, and something nice might just fall in…Part 3 coming up!

So the other day I noticed that a girl I followed on Twitter said that people are always surprised to hear that she is at university, on account of the fact that she is also a model, lapdancer and webcam girl. This resonated with me; people always seem shocked to hear that I too have a degree. This got me thinking that having both a brain and a career in the adult industry are not mutually exclusive. So I decided to write about it here. This blog post is a little different to the others as I have asked several other adult workers or various descriptions to contribute! I have also split it into several parts on account of the number of contributors! So this is part 1.

The girl who got me thinking in the first place is one Miss Lesley Rose (@MissLesleyRose). We met at an adult industry Christmas party a year or so ago and have been twitter followers ever since. Lesley is currently studying a BSc(Hons) degree in Psychology with Child Development, with a view to eventually working with children with special educational needs – specifically, those with motor function difficulties. She is also a webcam model and lapdancer.

Lesley was already a lapdancer before commencing her studies, and, as so often is the case, this led to modelling jobs. However, as any dancer will tell you, it’s hard to maintain a good living out of dancing as more girls come to the clubs, or they shut down altogether. Lesley then turned to webcamming, after a brief stint working on the adult chat channels.

When asked if she has ever encountered any prejudice based on what she does, Lesley says:

I think people assume I’m slow or stupid when I’m not. And they think I’m doing a degree for show and not because I know what I’m doing when I’m actually smashing it and I just finished my semester with a First. I think people don’t look past the job title and think “oh she must have no brain”. Countless times people have either been shocked that I’m doing a degree or doing so well at it. People say things like “oh she gets her tits out cause that’s all she’s good for” when that’s not the case at all.

I also asked Lesley if, like me, people are surprised when they find out she is a student, knowing what she does for a living, and vice versa. She replied:

Yeah they’re shocked! And then they assume that I HAVE to do what I do because I have no money which again isn’t true. I choose to do my job because I love it not because I NEED to. People at uni don’t know what I do, bar one person, and she’s really not bothered by it at all.

Lesley’s final words, which I shall end this blog post on for now, pretty much sum up how I also feel about people’s attitudes to adult workers that also, God forbid, have an education!:

I think people need to stop being so narrow minded. A lot of men and women in the adult industry get judged based on their jobs as if being in the industry makes you less of a person. Now I don’t speak for all parties involved but you would be surprised how many girls have a degree, have husbands, wives, fiancés, work in a corporate environment and in the adult industry as a fun sideline. Just stop judging people.

Feel the love, people! More in Part 2 – from a naked handyman studying for his masters in Marketing & PR…