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So this Bank Holiday has been pretty lame, really – I haven’t been feeling too well and the weather has been shit! It would seem that summer 2014 is well and truly over now, sadly. Well, it was good while it lasted, I guess – we had some nice weather at least, although this summer saw the loss of some greats – Rik Mayall, Robin Williams and now Sir Richard Attenborough. RIP all.
I shall not dwell on the negatives!
I am feeling much better now and back in the game, taking bookings for domme sessions and just doing my thing. New Moon in Virgo today which is always a good time to set one’s intentions and getting back on track. Time to reinstate regularity and get back into the swing of things, and to make plans for the coming month. It is also a good time to assess and change habits relating to one’s health, so now would be a good time to give up smoking, perhaps…I’m trying!!
This Autumn will be a fruitful one for me, no doubt. I am looking forward to it.
If you wish to book a session with me in my new, organised and ambitious state of mind, click the “Session With Me” tab at the top!
To read a little more about the New Moon, click here

Punters – Part 3

Posted: April 10, 2014 in Punters
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I am getting such a good response to my Punters series of blog posts! Better keep the crowds happy, then – here is number three!
I am going to call this guy MJ as he has asked to be anonymous. (NB: not his actual initials)
The very first question I asked was about MJ’s adult service habits – which ones does he use, how long for, and why! This is what he said…

I use webcams a lot – at least once a day if only to pop in and say Hi to the girls I am in regular cam contact with. I use phone chats fairly regularly but due to making huge £1000 plus phone bills a few months running this has been cut down dramatically . I do go to a lapdance club but this is mainly because the girl I am currently involved with works there.
Ok why do I use them? It’s fairly simple – in real life face to face meets with women I am crap , I can’t tell if a lady likes me or not so to be able to see a beautiful girl on the telly and know it’s her I am chatting to makes me comfortable. Plus the girls on screen are unobtainable, they are never going to be sat in a bar face to face with me so I feel I can be open and honest. I have in more recent years found the web-camming a great source of finding ladies who like my kinks to talk to.

Interesting answer! MJ has been using these phone chat channels and sites since his early twenties – although he did not say how old he is now, so I am going out on a limb and assuming that this constitutes quite a long time!
So MJ, how do you view the ladies you like to interact with?

In my opinion, I see the women in porn as people – one of my bestest buddies does webcam, phonechat and dominatrix stuff. I first met her on webcam years ago and she was real, she was human I could have a chat with her and shes a lovely lady. I have always had a respect for the ladies who do this work. I may be cheeky I may get a little horny but I never degrade or be openly nasty to any of them, most of the girls I have spoken to all seem to think I am lovely so I must be at least doing something right.

So it would appear from MJ’s answer, and indeed those of the other fellas I have spoken to, that they can actually distinguish between a fantasy figure and a real person – something that the antis like to refute with great gusto. This ties in nicely to my next question, which was about whether these “virtual” relationships interfere with his “real” relationships –

I have no real personal relationships due to my lack of confidence. I am pretty much single so to be fair my relationships with the ladies I phone or webcam with are my most real ones.

I don’t think you can call a relationship with a camgirl or phone chat host not real – if you’re interacting regularly with someone, of course you get to know them! Lots of my regular callers and cammers do genuinely care and I care about them too – it’s not like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but it is definitely a friendship!
I then asked MJ who some of his favourites were – I appreciate this is a hard question, especially when you speak to a lot of girls a lot of the time! But MJ managed to narrow it down to five…

Miss AmberLeigh .
Beth from Babestation adorable little Kiwi .
Brookelynne Briar beautiful Canadian lady who is so sweet .
Alex Adams now retired from the shows but lovely little blonde nutcase .
October Summers and MFC cam girl who is so adorable .
For any ladies who cam this isn’t an exhaustive list and depending on what your into you may get added !!

Hear that ladies?! MJ’s top five could be expanded if you hit the right buttons for this lovely chap!
I then went on to discuss whether, for MJ, a real time meet is preferable to one over the phone or webcam…

I have only had one proper real time meeting with a very lovely lady who fulfilled a long lived fantasy of mine (and hers) and it was amazing! I was nervous as hell but she made me feel at ease and I loved every minute, the practicality of it is the webcams allow me easier and cheaper access to the things I like. My kink isn’t appreciated by all so finding ladies willing to play face to face can be difficult.

Oooh, I am interested to hear what this “kink” is – but MJ did not elaborate so I shall only guess for now! 😉
A final message from MJ – and although he has claimed anonymity, I’m sure that the girls who know him will be able to tell who it is!

I would like to say in the many years I have used the phonechats and Cams it has been rare to find any lady to be anything but professional you ladies that do talk to me regularly know who you are and I love you all to bits . I have along the way made a really good friend who I adore and care about heaps and as long as I can afford to keep talking camming and finding ladies willing I shall help to keep the industry afloat.

What a lovely chap! I do hope that you find your way into my chatroom soon, MJ, you all know I love an interesting fetish!!! Thank you for contributing to the blog, I hope that people take note of your words and realise that not all men who use adult oriented services are horrible old pervs – I can assure you, they are not!

Punters – Part 2

Posted: April 9, 2014 in Punters
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Well I do hope you enjoyed the last post – I must say, I do feel very touched when people agree to help me out with my little blog, especially those who wish to remain anonymous – they are trusting me with some very personal and private things, and I feel very humble to think that these people – some of whom are complete strangers – trust me enough to share this!
Anywho, before I get too sentimental, I thought I would continue. This next post is brought to you courtesy of a chap called Wayne. Wayne has been using escorts for many years now, and has also dabbled in webcam activities and the odd visit to a strip club or two. An enthusiastic punter, Wayne started availing himself of the many wonderful pleasures of the flesh as soon as he turned 18! No hanging about for this chap! His very first punt was in a London walk up (for those of you unfamiliar with the term – literally, an open door down a backstreet, typically somewhere like Soho, leading to stairs, which would prompt you to “walk up” them!) and that, as they say, is history!
Again, having been a regular gentleman caller for a long time, Wayne has come to realise that working girls are real people too!

I see ladies working in the industry as women making a living, they provide a service that i enjoy and don’t mind paying to use. I have seen a few ladies on more than one occasion, one becoming very close to them. Have even been out on a dog walk with one before sexual services.

Ah, nothing like a brisk walk of the hound to whet one’s sexual appetite huh?! I can understand how it’s very easy to view people in the context of their job – and sex work is not exempt from that. However it’s also just as easy to remember that we are all human, we all have feelings, and, yes, sometimes, we have to walk the dog before we get on with work!
I asked Wayne if he thought his use of adult services affected his personal relationships at all. He answered me with this:

I was single for a long time, I worked nights so having a relationship was very hard. Once I was in one, I stopped seeing ladies but still watched the odd webcam show. In between relationships, I saw escorts as saw it as an easy way to get sex! I could pick a lady and give them a call.

Well that is true, the beauty of sex work has to be the convenience, surely?! A simple and easy transaction whereby everyone is satisfied. I asked Wayne if he had any favourites, initially meaning babeshow hosts or cam girls. Due to my not having made this clear, Wayne answered that although he had A LOT of favourites, his real preference was for porn star escorts. I have heard from lots of people, on both sides of the transaction, that some people like to meet escorts who have been pornstars, or still are. I suppose it’s the porn equivalent to meeting Johnny Depp or Scarlett Johanssen or someone that you’ve lusted after in a movie for years, and then you get to bone them! Winner! Now if only Captain America was offering his services for a fee…!!! Wayne then went on to say that he had actually met two of his favourite pornstars for escort meets several times. Lucky Wayne!
Despite not being able to beat the real thing, Wayne says that he probably now uses webcam more often, as he finds this most convenient. When asked if there was anything else he would like to add to this blog post, all he said was, “please don’t think I’m a pervert!”
I don’t think you’re a pervert at all dear; there is nothing wrong with a healthy interest in sex and sexual outlets!

Punters – Part 1

Posted: April 8, 2014 in Punters
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Hello there filth fans! I hope you haven’t missed my blog posts too much – always bloody busy, me! I also hope you have been enjoying my new website?! It’s now been up for a week – there’s a rather marvellous update this week featuring Mr Naylor, so go check it out! http://www.tiffnaylor.com
Anywho, I haven’t forgotten about several lovely gentlemen who got in touch with me a while back to answer my questions about being service users in the adult industry. So here we go boys and girls with the first in my current little mini series about the punters – without whom we would all be out of a job! We salute you, wankers! (literal wankers, that wasn’t an insult).
The first person I am going to write about is Burns! Any girl who’s done the babe channels in the UK will be familiar with him – and indeed a few of the other chaps who contributed! Burns has been a fan of the babeshows for the last 10-15 years – now that’s some serious dedication to debauchery! He says he has used webcams a little bit, but his first love is phone chat! In particular he likes to indulge in the delights showcased on BS Unleashed, ChatgirlTVX, Babestation, XpandedTV and Streamate. A good mixture of TV, webshows and webcams there. A connoisseur of the chat channels, perhaps Burns?!
Having been around for such a long time, and indeed calling the shows, Burns has got to know quite a few of the ladies on something more of a personal level than perhaps your opportunistic or sporadic caller

I see them as real people and have got to know a few of them and met them, also follow them on social media sites but do know some guys on the sites just see the girls as objects

If you call the girls that often, you’re sure to trike up more than a polite rapport with them! It’s nice to know that the die hard wankers out there appreciate that the girls are more than a pretty package. So which girls does Burns like to titillate himself telephonically to?!

Raegan Sidley, Jess Lloyd, Jaye Rose, Tindra Frost, Kate Santoro, past favourite Bonnie Lee and too many others to mention including the author of this blog

Well good grief Burns you do make me blush!! A nice variety of lovely ladies there. Is it possible that having such an interest in the babeshow babes may have an effect on your personal life?

Yes I find I talk more about the girls to friends rather than any real situations, plus seem to stay in to log in later rather than go out and socialise

Well hey, the girls are real, and your calls are real, so don’t let anyone tell you it’s not real life, Burnsy! It’s always nice to see your name pop up on the chatbox!
So there you go, a little insight into the mind of a babeshow caller! A lot of people don’t think that the shows are real, or the calls are all fake, so Burns is living proof that this is not the case. Coming up are more contributions from “service users” (so clinical, but more polite than “wankers”, n’est pas?!) in particular, those who like to visit escorts, dommes and webcammers!

I’m on a bloody roll tonight! So I decided to ask my lifelong friends about their views on the sex industry and how these may have changed since I became a part of it. I asked five of them and only one of the came back to me, the bloody bastards! Although, two of them have kids, one’s just had another, and the other is a workaholic! So thank you very much to my lovely friend who did reply, and I’m glad it was her as her responses are quite funny as well as being interesting to read!
The first question I asked was “What were your opinions/thoughts on the sex industry before I told you I had started working in it?”
Her answer was this…

The sex industry, in my opinion was always a bit of a naughty taboo that I was intrigued by but would be embarrassed to tell any partner, even friends without a few glasses of wine under my belt.
The girls… Yes, I admit, I perceived them as needy, attention seeking slut bags who were probably only in the industry because they could not get a ‘proper’ job. Was I a tad jealous of their sexual confidence and body confidence? For the most part yes, yes I was.

Pretty standard response there – one I held myself for many years! Desperately curious, but taught to shun and look down my nose at it. Typical!
I then asked her if these opinions had changed since I became a “needy slut-bag” haha!

Definitely! Where I still think there are a small majority of needy slut bags, on the whole I have learned people in the industry just love sex and have made a career doing what they love. Is this not what everyone would like to do? As long as the performers are consenting adults then it’s not an issue.

Funnily enough, she wasn’t all that surprised when I started my foray into the world of adult misadventure!

Shock, surprise, utter disbelief? Not in the slightest….
Not because I perceived you as said slut bag, but because you’ve always expressed an interest in this area, you are sexually open minded and enjoy ‘trying new things’ and you’re good at it! Why wouldn’t you turn it into a way to make a living?
I did however have my concerns, mostly about safety. But after much reassurance I realised if things are done in a safe controlled environment then it’s not to different to any other job. You go there, you perform to the best of your ability (for the lost part) then go home.
Another concern, what will people think? Would you be recognised, would people be horrible to you etc etc. Yes some where, some friends didn’t agree with this new lifestyle choice, but on the whole most were intrigued and excited about our old friends new job. The stories we heard…. 😉

Ah, gee thanks, so glad you don’t think I’m a slut-bag, pal! HA!
Do you think people automatically have negative views of the sex industry, then?

Yes, I certainly did. On the whole it’s seen as being a bit seedy, maybe dirty? (In most senses of the word) but after hearing your experience, I have learned most in the industry are functioning members of society, this for them is a profession, some a hobby but maybe for a tiny percentage a necessity to fulfill their financial and maybe emotional needs.

I wish I could pinpoint where this automatic conditioning against sex, sexuality and sex work comes from!? But I think it is so deep-rooted in society that we don’t even notice until the opportunity arises to challenge and question it?!
So then I went all mainstream and political and asked my bestie what she thought about all the crap in the media about censorship and the banning of porn and prostitution. A deep and compelling subject, between two friends who think farts and toilet humour is hilarious.

I think if it was banned people will still find a way and as with anything this will create a much more dangerous environment where things will not be as controlled and the performers will not be treated as well as they are within most legitimate work places. I do not think watching porn makes you some depraved sex addict who rapes, attacks, abuses another person as much as I don’t think watching a horror film will make you want to go on a murderous rampage.

So, any final words to our lovely readers then love?!

In my humble opinion, as long as you are not hurting yourself or others either physically, mentally or otherwise it is utterly your prerogative to do what you like, with whoever you like, however you like! What’s the difference between being paid to perform sexually, and going out on a Saturday night and having sex with a stranger and leaving the next morning with nothing more than a raging hangover and the taxi fare home? About £200 quid (depending on the performance)!
The difference being the latter is more sociably acceptable. Most people have done it so it’s ok. The porn industry has been much more featured in the media lately showing the ‘normal’ side to people in the industry and I think this has been in the main a positive thing for the industry and it’s employees.

So there you go. That’s what my best friend thinks about my career choice! If the others ever get back to me, I’ll let you know! Until then, catch up on all my other posts, and keep an eye out for the next lot – which comes from the service users!!!

Part four of my Let’s Hear It From The Boys series brings us the very lovely Mr Benedict Garrett (@benedictgarrett), aka Johnny Cockfill to those in the know! Benedict has an impressive resume, including “Sexual Activist & Radical Sex Educationalist, Founder of ‘BIRDS, BEES, PLEASE’ and the ‘GET REAL!’ Sex Ed Campaign, Erotic Award Winner 2013, Big Brother housemate 2012, Actor & Entertainer”. He has also been a stripper, male escort and porn performer, having begun his foray into the adult world 10 years ago when he started shooting porn. He has also done mainstream acting and appeared on mainstream TV chat shows! WOW!
So naturally I was very pleased when he responded to my cry for help with this little piece I’ve been working on. Accustomed as he is to public speaking I knew that the responses he would give would be succinct, well-informed and honest – he didn’t disappoint…Do you think people react differently to men in the adult industry compared to women?

Obviously, being a man, I can only speak first-hand about my own experience. Of course, I hear views being banded around about the perceptions of women in the business, but these can also, perhaps to a lesser extent, be echoed about the men too. I think views are incredibly diverse and, thankfully, changing. I think it is also probably true to say that, by and large, there is this notion that men who do adult work are to be envied, while the women are just ‘sluts’, or victims of a patriarchal system or desperate situation that has ‘forced’ them into this line of work and, therefore, to be pitied. Equally, I cannot say that I am not occasionally in receipt of, sometimes offensive, and condescending, comments from all sorts of people. However, I have noticed, that no-one ever has the audacity to say anything to my face (except in specifically staged debates and interviews). When I raise my line of work with an unsuspecting audience, they tend to be more curious and intrigued than wishing to cast any form of judgement on my choices. But, then again, I am a man. A 6ft 2in, 15 stone man, to top it off. Maybe I would be an easier target for their ‘abuse’ and ‘aspersions’ if I was female.

How very true! On to the next question then, which was: Anti-sex work people like to use the argument that porn/sex work objectifies women. Do you, as a man, feel objectified, or do you enjoy the attention?

I am objectified. When someone comes to see me strip or watches me having sex, they have no intention to see beyond the physical. And why should they? We are selling the aesthetic. If I wanted to sell my intellect, I would be writing books or speaking publicly (which, as it happens, I also do at other times). Pornography & stripping are visual performances Their main aim is to visually stimulate. This may, in turn, cause other responses within an individual, but primarily we are putting ourselves forward as objects. I see nothing wrong with that. Objectification, for as long as we are visually stimulated beings, is a fact within the human condition. We need not feel bad or guilty about that. As long as we are able to place that into a context that does not see individuals ONLY as objects. I can look at an individual and find them physically attractive. Only a complete idiot, bereft of even the most basic intellectual capabilities and social skills, would neglect the fact that, if they were ever to meet that person, the object of their affection is more than simply skin and bones. The majority of us are able to balance a physical lust or titillation with the reality that every human has feelings, emotions, intelligence, family, friends, interests and everything else that comes with being a member of the human race. Knowing all of this does not mean that we cannot deny, within a balanced lifestyle, our right to be physically aroused by another human.

I would be lying if I did not admit to enjoying the attention most of the time. It is, of course an ego boost to realise that, some people at least, enjoy your performance and are attracted to you in some way. However, while I accept that, as a male stripper, audience members will try to touch us, stroke our muscles, smack our behinds, squeeze our packages (all of which would never be permitted within a female stripping venue), I do draw the line at what I would class as ‘abuse’. On several occasions, I have had to turn ’teacher mode’ on audience members who deem it acceptable to scratch my back. THIS I find totally intolerable. Thankfully, it doesn’t often happen, but enough times for me to always now be on my guard.

On a more positive note, I often meet the people who come to see me strip after my performance and they are usually pleasantly surprised that I am able to string a sentence together.

Yikes! Interesting, though, how what would be deemed totally unacceptable to do to female strippers, is apparently ok to do to male strippers?! I’ve only ever been present at one male “stripping” before (believe it or not) and the poor girl who’s birthday it was was so mortified that the guy did very little other than wave his wanger in her face. Although she reckons she noshed him off after – again, that would be a no-no with a female stripper! Then again, maybe some people like that kinda thing. Similarly, Benedict went on to point out that what some people might see as a bad thing, others might not! Pros and cons are in the eye of the beholder, perhaps…

I think both of these can be subjective depending on what kind of personality you are. But here goes:

Pros:
– You are getting paid to have sex.
– You meet some interesting people and get to shoot, sometimes, in some fascinating places.
– You get paid a relatively decent rate for what is, for many, a dream job. At the very least, I certainly would not class it as ‘hard’ work, although many people would not be able to do it.
– If you enjoy attention, you certainly get plenty of that.

Cons:
– Working in porn obviously carries a health risk, which you minimise through regular sexual health screening (FYI, so far, I have never contracted an STI in my entire life)me neither!
– Although it is sex, it can be quite demanding and you must do what is asked of you. You are not there to simply get your rocks off. Often, I do live sex shows which last for 4.5 hours. That can be tiring!
– There are some things that even I can find hard to do on demand at times, I am not a machine!
– Work is not always regular and the British porn scene is very small.
– Thankfully, there aren’t many guys in British porn because most guys aren’t able to perform, so there’s not too much competition out there.
– Working in porn obviously carries a stigma which may be carried with you into other aspects of your life and affect your future career prospects as well as your relationship with your family and friends and your ability to maintain a lover, if you are tying to do so.
– You may have to work with people you are not attracted to.
– In stripping, the potential for physical abuse, as mentioned above.
– Finally, in stripping, tying up your cock is not necessarily the best thing to be doing regularly to your penis.

Any bad experiences in your line of work Mr. Garrett?

Stripping: aside from the scratchers, not really. I try to avoid any 1-to-1 booking requests because I know they are only inviting problems.
I was once booked to strip in a venue called ‘The Hoist’ in London, being told I was just to perform my normal routine. When I turned up, I was surrounded by sweaty men wearing little more than leather floss. I was informed that if all I was going to do was strip, that the punters would not be happy. I was told I could leave if I wished. I promptly hauled my clothed ass out of there!

Porn: Not really. On a totally shallow note, I have worked with girls I really was not attracted to and, as awful as it sounds, would rather have stayed at home eating crumpets while watching ‘Murder She Wrote’. Beyond that, no, I have never had, nor witnessed any bad experiences in porn. I have had far more worse experiences in the ‘mainstream’ world.

Haha! So Benedict Garrett is a Jessica Fletcher fan! Who knew?! Best bits about the job?

The places I go, the people I meet, pushing myself to try new things, over-coming barriers, and, mostly, I love challenging people’s perceptions of me and other people who work in the industry.

Abso-bloody-lutely. If you’ve been keeping up to date with this blog you will know full well we are all about chalenging perceptions and stereotypes here! Thank you ever so much to Benedict for contributing, I appreciate that getting annoying emails asking for your thought and opinions take time to reply to and for that I am very grateful.
Aaaand finally, you can keep up to date with all Benedict’s comings and goings via his twitter @benedictgarrett and his website, www.benedictgarrett.com

Hello there lovely blog readers! My sincerest apologies for the lack of recent blog posts – I’ve been busy!
Anyway, whilst thinking what to write about next, I realised that people very rarely seem to discuss males in the adult industry – either those working within it, or those that use adult oriented services. And thus, my latest feature was born! People seems to focus solely on the women in the sex industry and I thought it would be good to focus on the boys for a change.
Today’s blog post comes courtesy of the lovely Ryan Ryder (@RyanRyderxxx). Ryan has been working n the industry for about a year and a half, as a male porn performer. An actor in a previous life, he has performed in many adult movies for most of the big companies out there – Playboy, Brazzers, Joybear, Dorcel, Killergram, Harmony…the list goes on. So obviously I was delighted when he agreed to contribute to my blog!
I am trying to get a different angle on those that work in the porn industry, so I asked Ryan if he thought men were treated differently to women, as performers…

Not really, apart from the fact men dont get paid as much as women! I have been treated with respect by the companies I have worked for but I have set myself out from the start to only work with the reputable companies so that has probably worked for me

Following on from this, I was interested to know if he felt “objectified” as a porn stud, seeing as this seems to be the main argument from the antis in their crusade against sexual entertainment. Interestingly, this isn’t something that seems to bother Ryan so much!

It depends on the type of shoot really. There are certain shoots that people might argue objectifies women but it cannot be argued that people get turned on by different thing so our industry caters for it. If it didn’t sell we wouldn’t film it! I am definitely objectified on some shoots but I don’t mind that. Those are the shoots that I just have to walk into shot with a hard on and you just see my penis throughout the entire scene so yes, I am objectified as “the penis” in those shoots! In others I have been featured as an actor in full on feature films with lots of script. I tend to enjoy those the best as I have come from a previous career as an actor.

People are always misconstruing the glamour and excitement of the porn industry – the reality of it is very different! When asked of the pros and cons of his job, Ryan says…

The pros and cons are prob similar to the girls…Pros – every day is different, the money is good, you don’t have to work every day if you don’t want to, I am in control of what shoots I perform in and you meet a lot of fun, interesting people. Cons – a LOT of driving, you don’t have any pensions or insurance or anything like that so you have to be sensible and sort out your own future while in this industry, if I break my leg at football this weekend I wont be able to earn until I am back performing which is why I am looking at getting involved in directing and producing and script writing this year as well as the performing side.

He then went on to discuss the downside – if you think about it, despite being paid less than the girls, guys in porn actually have a much harder job (in my humble opinion!)

Of course every guy in the industry (whether they wanna admit it or not lol) has had a day where for whatever reason you struggle to keep hard throughout the shoot. When I first started out it was at the forefront of my thoughts “I must keep my cock hard” it dominated my thoughts and throughout the day I would be playing with the bloody thing 2 hours before the cameras were rolling to make sure I could get it hard! I soon learned that you almost have to do the opposite which is relax, don’t worry about getting hard, trust that you are a good performer and that things will happen naturally when that time comes. I am so much more relaxed at shoots now and as a result my days are a lot less stressful.

So there you go guys, if you’re thinking of getting into porn, it’s not as easy as it looks!
A final word from Ryan:

Frequent masturbation cuts your risk of prostate cancer so bash away and enjoy the porn especially the scenes with me in them!
Follow me on my twitter @ryanryderxxx

Many thanks Ryan for your honesty and for featuring on this week’s blog! More to come from the punters – who uses escorts, watches porn, calls chat lines and goes on webcam, why, and what they feel about it all! #LetsHearItFromTheBoys

How we all doing today gang?!
So yesterday I had the most hits on my blog EVER! I am so pleased by the ositive comments and feedback that it’s receiving. Today I bring you the marvellous Kimberley Scott! (@sexyplaymatexxx)
Kimberley hails from Eastern Europe, now living in the UK, and describes herself as a “indi companion, party organizer and party girl, XXX/Glam/Adult model and performer, cam girl” – so she is a lady of many talents. She has been working in the adult industry since she was 18 years old so has seen it all! She is also a clever sort, and actually has a degree in Psychology – just like yours truly.

Initially I wanted to continue with MIT and System Administration (high school diploma is A of Graphic Design and Video Editing) but unfortunately there was no satisfying subject in the Uni of my lil town so I went to the capital, started my sex work (more free time for studies and of course a lot better pay). Dealing with different people every day made me re-think my study ambitions and I went for Psychology. At the end of the day I was and still am practicing it in my work so I just wanted to know what makes people tick. I just wanted to know what drives people to do the things they do.

Psychology is definitely very useful in this line of work, in my opinion, as it allows you understand how and why people may think the way that they do, and really get under their skin and provide the best service that you can!
Kimberley was already working in the adult industry when she began her studies – the money was good enough to allow her to fund herself through university, and she felt that she didn’t have that many options so adult work seemed like a good choice! As she said herself, the country she hails from isn’t know for looking after it’s people terribly well.
After university, Kimberley wanted to work in the police force, or as a forensic psychologist. However, this didn’t go to plan…

I’ve always wanted to be a police officer or at least in the forces. After 5 years in uni doing psychology I knew what I wanted to do – I wanted to be a forensic psychologist. Unfortunately there were way too many obstacles like corruption and sleaziness so I went on different path.

During her time at university, not many people we aware of Kimberley’s job, and she says that those that were, either weren’t that bothered or were doing the same thing themselves! She even hints that certain skillsets from the job may have helped certain people in their academic pursuits…

There weren’t that many people knew what I was doing but those that knew didn’t really care. It was more interesting to them how my world works than actually being prejudice. When I finished uni 40% of girls were doing my job to fund studies or just for better, glamorous life (In some case the marks were depending on certain skills too, hush hush of course)

Many times I have counted my blessings and been thankful that I live in a society where my choices are my own and that I have the support of my friends and family. Kimberley also says that she is lucky in this respect.

Thankfully western world is a lot more tolerant with sex work and women choosing to do that job so there is not that much surprise, unfortunately there are still some people thinking that we’re forced to do it and we’re wasting our potential. I’m blessed that my family and closest friends are ok with my job and I can share my thoughts and feelings free.

Some people, of course, do not have this attitude to sex workers, and Kimberley sums this up quite nicely in her final thoughts – citing religion and society as the biggest opposition in the fight for sexual freedom!

Sex work in general can be very rewarding in many ways – Financial independence, sexual freedom, knowing yourself better and overall well being. The society although makes it sound like biggest disgrace hiding behind Bible, old fashioned customs and some powerful people’s misunderstandings. In this day and age women can CHOOSE on their own to be sex workers or not. Yes, there is a dark side to it but isn’t there for everything? Yes, it is dangerous but tell me what job is not dangerous? At the end of the day that’s our lives and we going to live it the way we want to.

Wise words from a smart lady. I think that forcing small businesses into bankruptcy for profit is immoral, but you don’t see people protesting against banks as a whole. I also think that sitting around on your ass all day expecting the state to foot the bill for your lazy lifestyle is pretty wrong, but you don’t get people holding conferences discussing how this type of immorality eats away at our society and creates a horde of useless drones. Thank you, Kimberley, for your contribution to today’s blog – and keep up the good work girl!

This again is a slightly different angle for my continuing piece on educated porn professionals, but an interesting and valid one all the same. Super talented photographer and producer John Tisbury (@johntisbury, @Erotica_babes) has offered us his views on perceptions and attitudes to adult oriented work, empowering women, and of course his education!
John owns and runs http://www.erotica-babes.com as well as being a producer. John is what I like to call, a proper photographer. He is a fellow of the Royal Photographic Society, and has even won an award for Erotic Artist of the Year 2010! His photography is utterly beautiful, and he has very kindly even sent me some images to attach to this piece! He studied BSc Science at university, graduating with a 2:1 – not to be sniffed at! Interestingly, John said that he feels his Science degree has actually helped him in his work (who’d have though it, eh?!)…

the degree covered some very useful subject areas from marketing through to systems practice. Many of the themes and subject areas drop into my day-to-day work so I’ve found the education rewarding and useful as I’ve been able to put the theory into practise.

As a photographer, John doesn’t really encounter prejudices or negative responses to what he does – in fact, it would seem to be quite the opposite!

…in the last 2 years I decided to shoot more explicit stills and video content under a new brand Erotica-Babes.com. I feel people are more open talking about nudity, certainly the rise in interest in the boudoir market has helped to convince many people to have some risqué images of themselves taken by a professional photographer, for their partner or lover. I find many woman love my work as they see the beauty, the art, the creativity in my work. Most of the men have a more testosterone fuelled response to my work. However, both are customers and they buy my work because they like it, whatever their underlying motivations.

And if you check out the following images, you will see just why women love John’s work – myself included! I would love to gt in front of his lens sometime!

Photos by John Tisbury - thank you!

Photos by John Tisbury – thank you!

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I love being creative and original with my work, I try and push boundaries and making people think about nudity. I aim to portray that nudity can be sexy, strong, erotic and provocative. I like to shoot my art photography and the more explicit work with the same approach; quality over quantity with careful consideration to lighting, concept and theme. If I can make people think about the images I produce then for me I’ve achieved something. John Tisbury, 2014

Here’s part 2 of my exploration of adult workers with degrees and an education! Yes, the two can co-exist hand in hand, you don’t need to be a dumbass to get naked for a living, contrary to popular belief!

“Adult worker” can cover many different occupations, although the dictionary defines this term as a polite term for prostitution. Webcam model, phone sex operator, dancer, porn star, escort…or, a naked handyman!

@mynakedhandyman very kindly agreed to answer some questions for me in my quest to show the nay-sayers that not everyone who is nude at work is an illiterate, uneducated fool, as society at large would have us believe. As his Twitter handle may suggest, Andy is a naked handyman! He gets paid to do work for both couples and singles, whilst totally in the buff. He will also include some little added extras, if they so desire!

Andy is super clever – he already has a degree in English, and is now currently studying again for his Masters in Marketing and PR, with a view to starting his own PR agency some day. He began his foray into all things naked during his first spell at university, working as a stripper and a life model. As with so many graduates – myself included – after university he was struggling with debts and did various jobs to get by, but found out that he could get paid handsomely for doing people’s odd jobs and cleaning whilst starkers! In fact, he liked it so much, that he still does it to this day!

When I asked Andy if he has ever encountered any prejudice or negative responses to what he does, he said:

Not that many people know I do what I do but anyone who has found out has generally been supportive. The males think it’s a great idea and the women are quite often very curious!

Andy made a very good point about perception when I went to ask if people are surprised or shocked when they find out he is studying at university:

I’ve not had that many people be surprised when I tell them I’m back studying. I’ve always been relatively keen on education and I’m well spoken so people often think I’m more intelligent that I am! Sadly, the power of an accent nowadays can mask anything – it’s all about image. This is why I’m very keen on getting into PR – it’s all about people’s perception.

Andy’s final words on the subect remind me of careers day at school – and I wish I had paid more attention back then!

If anyone out there wants to study – go for it. It’s never too late and there’s never anything that’s not worthwhile studying – if it interests you, then you’ll find it both challenging and rewarding.

So there you go, guys – you CAN study at Masters level AND get yer kit off for a living! Stigmas are attached by people – and can be removed by them, too. Open up your mind – your brains won’t fall out, and something nice might just fall in…Part 3 coming up!